OBLIGATION: LOVE or FEAR?
Happiness cannot thrive within the prison of obligation.
Live wild, life free, live as master of your own fate.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Do
you remember the flurry of excitement at the holidays when you were just a
child? There is something special in the
air at this time of year.
Unless,
of course, you find yourself getting stressed out for any number of
reasons: extra long hours at work, not
enough money to cover your holiday expenses, illness, family get togethers ...
OBLIGATION!
Although
many are quick to defend “obligation” as a loved-based attitude and/or action,
it is actually based on fear.
To
demonstrate this claim, take a look at this list of common fears, which often
lead to obligation. How many do you
identify with (from mild to strong)?
I am afraid of:
- Losing my family member's approval
- Getting my family member angry with me
- Getting the “silent treatment”
- My family member getting into danger or legal trouble
- My family member self-harming or attempting suicide
- My family member getting depressed
- Being thought of as “selfish”
- Taking responsibility
- Being found out
- Being a bad son/daughter/parent
- Fear of abandonment
- Fear of retaliation
- People thinking that I’m a bad person
- Loss of love/friendship/companionship
- Losing contact with or custody of my children
- Being alone or living by myself
- Being called names or being embarrassed in public
- Being threatened
- Becoming depressed
- Failing to live up to expectations
- Confrontation
- Getting angry
- Losing control
“When our sense of obligation is stronger than our sense of self-respect and self-caring, blackmailers quickly learn how to take advantage”
- Forward and Frazier, 1997
SETTING BOUNDARIES: A HEALTHY OPPORTUNITY
Frankly, the
only obligation that feels right to me is the one to Self. Taking care of and
loving our Self is vital. Setting emotional boundaries is of the utmost
importance and eliminates being taken advantage of.
The quickest
way to establish boundaries is to be consistent. Mean what you say!
Remember, in
order to be used, we must allow
it (albeit, at the subconscious level). It may not feel like a choice, but I
assure you, it is!
Wishing you
the happiest of holiday season, complete with LOVE!
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