OBLIGATION: LOVE or FEAR?

OBLIGATION:  LOVE or FEAR?

 

Happiness cannot thrive within the prison of obligation.
Live wild, life free, live as master of your own fate.

- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Do you remember the flurry of excitement at the holidays when you were just a child?  There is something special in the air at this time of year. 

 

Unless, of course, you find yourself getting stressed out for any number of reasons:  extra long hours at work, not enough money to cover your holiday expenses, illness, family get togethers ...

 

 OBLIGATION!

Although many are quick to defend “obligation” as a loved-based attitude and/or action, it is actually based on fear.

To demonstrate this claim, take a look at this list of common fears, which often lead to obligation.  How many do you identify with (from mild to strong)?

I am afraid of:

•    Losing my family member's approval
•    Getting my family member angry with me
•    Getting the “silent treatment”
•    My family member getting into danger or legal trouble
•    My family member self-harming or attempting suicide
•    My family member getting depressed
•    Being thought of as “selfish”
•    Taking responsibility
•    Being found out
•    Being a bad son/daughter/parent
•    Fear of abandonment
•    Fear of retaliation
•    People thinking that I’m a bad person
•    Loss of love/friendship/companionship
•    Losing contact with or custody of my children
•    Being alone or living by myself
•    Being called names or being embarrassed in public
•    Being threatened
•    Becoming depressed
•    Failing to live up to expectations
•    Confrontation
•    Getting angry
•    Losing control

 

“When our sense of obligation is stronger than our sense of self-respect and self-caring, blackmailers quickly learn how to take advantage”

- Forward and Frazier, 1997

SETTING BOUNDARIES:  A HEALTHY OPPORTUNITY

Frankly, the only obligation that feels right to me is the one to Self. Taking care of and loving our Self  is vital.  Setting emotional boundaries is of the utmost importance and eliminates being taken advantage of. 

The quickest way to establish boundaries is to be consistent.  Mean what you say!

 

Remember, in order to be used, we must allow it (albeit, at the subconscious level).  It may not feel like a choice, but I assure you, it is! 

Wishing you the happiest of holiday season, complete with LOVE!

_____________________________________________________

Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!

WHAT WILL YOU LEAVE BEHIND?

Our heirs inherit the legacy of our personality. 

Let that thought linger for just a moment. Our children, spirit-children and younger relatives all come into what we leave behind both emotionally and energetically. 

What will you leave behind?

What this means: 

We have firmly imprinted the younger generation with  wounds we carry form our own childhood.  Period. 

We may very well be unaware of the impact our cluttered past has on our children.  Many are simply trying to survive and may be stuck in a revolving door of fear, which often manifests as anger, relationship issues, substance abuse, depression, physical illness, career challenges and overall lack of well-being.

Cutting the cords to the past

Cutting energetic cords (releasing toxic people, places and events) to the past is a powerful game-changer!  During an intuitive healing session, my goal is to explore and discover, then sever these cords.  It is profound energy work at the *subtle energy level and can be life-altering.  Many report feeling lighter instantly!  When confronted with people and/or situations that formerly caused a great deal of stress and tension, we may notice no further "charge", thus freeing us from undesirable and unhealthy emotional reaction.

What legacy will you leave the generation following you?

 __________________________

* Subtle energy is considered tenuous or rarefied energy.  To many, it is evasive, mysterious and hard to grasp or trace.  As a healer (a clairvoyant medium who has the ability to stimulate energy), I am able to "see" this energy, which allows me to release or cut away that which no longer serves the highest good.

 _____________________________________________________

Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!

FALLING INTO THE MIRROR

Great Shift in Energy or Going Mad?

 

"You fall into the mirror,

come through the other side

staring at a lightbulb." 

~Charles Bukowski

Letter from a distraught reader:

"Over the past two months my powers 
(electrokinesis=significant, clairvoyance=significant, empathy=overwhelmingly powerful) have faded, and my mind has physically felt like it has reversed; I can no longer feel my mind function and my memories are fading, my luck is failing, I am slowly being locked in myself, and it gets worse moment by moment, to magnify what is occurring, things that were once dark are now light.  My awareness, my body, everything is distorted and it gets worse, even my memories are being corrupted, my past is being rewritten, even my face has changed in days, like I am in reverse, I don't know what to do!"

Shifting Vibration:  The Tornado Effect

I received this very loud cry for help in the form of a response to this article, which I am reprinting here (see below) for the second time.  Although I have written many articles over the last few years, this one, SYMPTOMS OF A VIBRATIONAL SHIFT, receives more responses than any... by far.

Though this is one of the most extreme requests for help I've received, I am not completely surprised by what the writer reports.  Transitioning out of the old into the new is not an easy process.  If unprepared for such a shift, you might think CHILDBIRTH without the benefit of anesthesia (for some)!

I do want to assure you, however that we are NOT victims in this process.  Read on to see my response to the writer's ardent request for help through understanding. I am not a physician; my response is based on my area or expertise.

Dear Writer,

On an energetic level, we are all going through change. Yet, what you describe is certainly intensified.

The physical vessel must be healthy and strong to withstand an influx of high vibration. The mind (ego) must be adaptable and flexible to undergo such shifts.

Where we are less than vital (body and/or mind), we will have our biggest challenges. Speaking strictly from an energetic position, it appears you are being "rewired". It can be a scary proposition, but I assure you, everything you are going through was preordained by your Soul before you took over this body.

In other words, what is happening is quite purposeful - at a higher level. Your might consider exploring the reasons why you require this dramatic shift at this time.

Are you being prepared to hold a much higher vibration (light) than ever before in this life???
If so, then this "tweaking" is necessary in order to facilitate the transition.

My heart goes out to you, however, not in pity. Rather, I am humbled and offer you great respect for making this gigantic leap into a space in which few dare to go and others may eventually aspire.

Sending much love and appreciation for your presence in the world at this monumentous moment in time,

Connie

Shift Happens!

Symptoms of a Vibrational Shift

It's Time to Awaken.

At an unconscious level, Earth's population is aware that a dimensional change is already under way, and this is one of the reasons why fears about the future are rising to the surface of mass consciousness.

Many people are feeling anxious, restless and unsettled, yet consciously are unable to say what it is that is making them feel this way.

We are required to re-adjust our thought processes, letting go of old belief systems and embracing a new reality which involves taking back our own power.

This new state of being requires us to let go of third dimensional concepts and thus compels us to let go of current relationships, jobs, careers, homes, possessions and so on if they are unable to support our new way of being. This releasing process is not easy, but is absolutely fundamental to our being able to support a higher level of consciousness.

This journey into higher vibration deeply affect our emotional and mental state, as well as our life-styles, we also undergo some physical changes as our body re-adjusts to the higher vibrational forces which accompany our increasing levels of consciousness.

Also, the changes to our physiological make-up are currently speeding up and there are many temporary physical symptoms that are occurring in our bodies as a consequence of this.
Among frequently reported symptoms are:

• Flu-like symptoms
• High temperatures
• Sweating
• Aching bones and joints etc., non-responsive to antibiotics
• Migraine headaches with severe pain non-responsive to pain killers
• Occasional runny nose and sneezing which lasts 24 hours and is not a cold or hay fever
• Dizziness
• Ringing in the ears
• Heart palpitations
• Feeling the whole body vibrate, especially at night when one is in a relaxed state
• Intense muscular spasms and pain in one or more areas of the body
• Tingling in arms, hands, legs or feet
• Temporary loss of muscular power in hands caused by changes to the circulatory system
• Occasional breathing difficulties
• Immune system changes
• Lymphatic system changes
• Feeling tired or exhausted from minor exertion
• Wanting to sleep longer and more often than usual
• Bouts of depression for no real reason
• Finding that one is delving into the past, looking at relationships and gaining clarity on personal issues
• Feeling one is doing a huge purge
• Tension, anxiety and high stress levels because one feels that something is going on but one doesn't know what it is

Some of these symptoms are being felt by a great many people. Many are rushing off to their doctor, chiropractor, herbalist and so on and usually told that there is nothing really wrong with them. And this is the truth.

For all these symptoms are just temporary and simply indicate that these physiological changes are occurring. Most symptoms seem to last a couple of weeks, and then clear up. Some symptoms may reoccur from time to time, especially depression.

These changes are not necessarily being experienced by everyone concurrently. This physical state of being is completely dependent upon our current level of consciousness.

It should be realized that many people have chosen not to make this journey. Not everyone feels ready to make the full-on commitment to change, and there are others too, who still have a great deal of learning to do at a third dimensional level and are nowhere near ready to evolve.

This requires those of us who are on the journey, to accept that what feels right to us, may not feel right to our nearest and dearest. Hence, the emotional tug-of-war we encounter when we heed the call to release ourselves from current friendships and partnerships and even, in some cases, from close family members.

Those who choose to remain at the current vibrational level will remove themselves from the Earth plane via the normal death process at the appropriate time, so there is no cause for worry on their behalf. Eventually, they too, will accept the challenge and we will be there to greet them when they do.

_____________________________________________________

Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) and home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!

ASTRAL TRAVEL: SOMEWHERE OVER THE RAINBOW

ASTRAL TRAVEL, or ASTRAL PROJECTION - often referred to as an out of body experience - is when your consciousness or spirit leaves your physical body temporarily.

WHAT'S YOUR "CURRENCY"?

Are you always AGREEABLE as a form of CURRENCY?

Human nature is infinitely intriguing.  Paying close attention, you may notice that certain individuals use what I like to call "currency" as a means to an end.

There are many forms of currency.  For example, "Joe" is described as loving, kind and always there for others but never asks for anything in return, and never burdens others with his concerns.  He is seen by many as a wonderful person, in deed.  However, underneath all the giving (of his time, advice, gifts, etc.) there may be a secret desire to have others like or love him.  He may not be consciously aware of this, but it is there and guiding his actions, all the same.

Do you give GIFTS as a form of CURRENCY?

Using this example, we can see that Joe's offer is not unconditional, although on the surface it may appear so, because he never overtly asks for anything in return.

Do you use HUMOR as a form of CURRENCY?

Ah, but he DOES want something; to be accepted, liked or even loved.  If he doesn't feel a return on his "investment", he may become resentful or quietly angry. Over time, this feeling of unreciprocated "kindness" builds and begins to show up in his passive aggressive actions.

What's your currency?  Challenging ourselves to look below the surface of our actions is healthy and enlightening.

Take the CURRENCY CHALLENGE.  Look at yourself; see what's there; do not judge what you see; grow from the discovery.  

_____________________________________________________

Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!

THE GREAT SANDBOX OF KINDNESS

Greetings, dear friends!

I've been quiet for a while as I have been doing much shifting and healing.  During these times, although I continue to see clients, I find it very nurturing to lay low and simply "be" with my Self.  

Amazing revelations occur through the dream time and just as often, through inspirational reading.

Are you up for the CHALLENGE?

The one facet of my life that I have been continuously recreating through these shifts is my perception of the actions of those around me.  I am always in wonder of how a tiny shift in consciousness can COMPLETELY change the way I look at something - whether it be the behavior of another or world events.

This shift feels like it is going "upwards".  By that, I mean as my vibration raises through improved choices I feel an upward pull.  Is it a physical sensation?  Not sure, but I have always "felt" information, as well as "see" and "hear", etc.  I like the feeling.

The biggest change I see in myself is an ongoing ability to stay in a more neutral space with myself and others.  I now subscribe to "STAYING IN KINDNESS" as often as possible.

It wasn't always easy when I first began practicing this.  What was most evident was the fact that others who weren't prepared to stay in the "neutral zone" tried to bring me back into reaction, where it was most familiar.

It can be very tempting to fall back on old behavior, which I relied upon more years than not in the past. Verbally, I could keep duel with the very best of 'em. In fact, I thrived on it; it wasn't unusual to find ME leading the brigade for the cause of the day!  

Unfortunately, too many of my words flowed from a sharp tongue.  Yes, I could win a battle of wit, but I din't feel good afterward.  In fact, I never felt like I "won" anything. My willingness to do battle only pushed people away.  I could scrap, alright, but I was lonely.

Do you want to be RIGHT, or do you want to be HAPPY?

When staying in kindness, the objective shifts from needing to win to creating an amenable exchange. It feels good...period.  I step away from this type of peaceful communication feeling centered and calm.  

Throughout this last shift, I found that listening can be more powerful than speaking.  When I stay in KINDNESS, I hear more.  That gives me a more abundant tool box from which to properly respond (rather than react).  If the other person doesn't not like what I have to share, they may get upset with me.  That is simply their ego - their perception - at play.  I do my best to create space for their feelings/comments, but I no longer get sucked in.  

However, sometimes, the calmer and kinder I remain, the more frustrated the other person becomes. This is because their pain body (ego) is trying desperately to engage my ego for a "fuel-up".  I am stronger and a bit wiser these days; I don't play in sandboxes where argumentative people hang out. And, if I encounter this energy in my travels, I simply go to KINDNESS.

_____________________________________________________

Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!

PAULA DEEN - MERCI BEAUCOUP!

Paula Deen - THE TODAY SHOW

The frenzy around Paula Dean at this time is indicative of our need to distract ourselves from governing our own life and actions.

It startles me how quick we, as a society, are willing to stand in judgment of others. Many of us  fall from grace from time to time, only not in the public eye.

When we begin to a acknowledge that everyone is a teacher, some because of how well they do something, and others by how poorly, we may choose to learn something from Ms. Dean.

She stands in the spotlight reminding us to be ever-thoughtful in our speech and our behavior toward others and to remain humble in the throes of success.

If Ms. Dean is paying attention, she, too, can learn something. Thinking/speaking/behaving in the way we were raised is not always appropriate. Changing with the times keeps us relevant.

Perhaps this upset will offer her a new way to "be" -  a higher road with a new definition of love and respect for all beings.

Thank you, Ms. Dean for standing up as a powerful teacher!  The recognition you are receiving isn't the kind in which you are accustomed, however, your experiences, and the lessons you provide,  are valuable and rich, nonetheless.

_____________________________________________________

Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!

I WAS A JURY FOREMAN

Jury Box

A judge declared a mistrial in the sentencing phase of Jodi Arias' Arizona murder trial today, after the jury could not agree on whether to sentence Arias to death or to life in prison for murdering her ex-boyfriend, Travis Alexander, in 2008.

Several years ago, I had the opportunity to be on a jury panel and was elected jury foreman by my peers.  

Back then, it was difficult to contain my joy.  You see, I'd always known that I wanted to experience formal deliberation.  I know I have a JUSTICE theme in my SOUL!  I believe I'd make a pretty good attorney or investigator.  But, I digress...

Organization

• My duty, as the foreman, was to establish a procedure for the deliberations.  I had to decide  how the evidence and the points made by the attoreys during the trial was to be reviewed, ensuring that all pertinent information was covered and that no important evidence was left out of the discussion. I also asked for clarification from the judge concerning points of the law.
  
  
  

  

  Deliberation Room - Home Away From Home

  Mediation

  As foreman, I led the discussion of the various points of the case.  In some instances, disputes arose between jury members who disagreed on interpretation of the evidence, or even on the guilt or innocence of the defendant.  I had to intervene and attempt to resolve the dispute so that the deliberation process stayed on track.

  
  

  My panel wanted to declare us a hung jury after only three hours of deliberation.  I did my best at helping them see we were there to do a job and it was our civic duty to truly work toward an agreement.  We hung in there until we reached a verdict, which in our case took three days.

Polling the Jury 

• 

  From the Movie, "12 Angry Men"

  When I felt that all of the evidence has been thoroughly reviewed, I took a vote of the jury members as to the defendant's guilt or innocence. At first, the jury did not reach a unanimous verdict, so I asked jury members to explain their votes to determine where they differed. This process continued until a unanimous verdict was reached.  
  
  

  Notifying the Judge

  When deliberations concluded and the jury reached a unanimous verdict on all charges, I sent word to the judge that a verdict had been reached. The judge then reconvened the court so that the verdict could be announced.  
  
  
  

  Announcing the Verdict

• Once court was back in session, the judge asked me, as the jury foreman, to rise and announce the verdict. The judge read each charge against the defendant and I responded with "Guilty". 

  
  

  Knowing that someone's fate is in your hand is sobering. Often I don't see the justice in so-called justice.  Having the opportunity to serve on a jury panel was a humbling and unforgettable opportunity. 

_____________________________________________________

Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!

HEALING with MOTHER LOVE

Many of you know that besides being a clairvoyant and a medium, I am a healer and a mentor.  I have been given the gift of seeing, hearing, sensing and healing in multidimensional ways.

All those years ago, when I first had the privilege of working with my dear mentor in the New Orleans area, she urged me to go deeper, go all the way to the SOUL.  She was adamant that no healing can take place at the psychic level alone.  

Working with the BODY SUIT

I have unfailingly followed her sage advice and now pass it along with reverence to my own students.

The most exciting aspect of my journey is the fact that I continue to learn new things about myself.  Every once in a while, I become complacent and coast, or rest, on my laurels.  Fortunately, if that happens,  The Universe does its thing and drop kicks my butt.

The Vessel

I have been dealing with an intestinal issue for several months.  Although I've eaten healthy for the last decade, years of too much wheat and refined sugar, beginning in early childhood,  do not support my current vibration.  So, it's a little like a war between light and dark.  The old faction wants to keep the reign, but the new says NO WAY!  

With the help of three dear friends, one a Naturopathic Doctor/Acupuncturist, one a whiz at Meridian Testing and the other my closest friend, I have found some answers and have a healing plan of action in place.

If you're still reading, here's where the BIG AHA moment comes in...

I am a researcher at heart, and so as I often do, I was browsing the net for information.  I came across a site that spoke highly of a supplement called COLOSTRUM, which is rich in protective and regulating factors necessary to promote health and vitality.   I decided to add this to my daily regime.

Still with me...?

Later the same day, I got quiet and did a card reading for myself.  I use the Sacred Path cards, which is a beautiful oracle deck based on Native American spirituality.  I laid the cards out slowly and thoughtfully.  Suddenly, the cards began to communicate with me.  

The final card was called RETURNING HOME - The Shawl.  This card speaks of coming home to the arms of Mother Earth and being wrapped in her nurturing love.

Mother Love

I began to cry.  This card opened up something very deeply buried within me.  I had missed out on Mother Love.   Although I have been intellectually aware of this for many, many years, it had never hit me this way.  Now, I was FEELING THE PAIN.

My mom was a schizophrenic and was never very affectionate toward me and did not protect me from my abusive, alcoholic dad.   She, did however, avidly protect my only sister and brothers.  The result is that I took the brunt of the physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse.  This is my karmic journey; I truly realize how it was my choice at a SOUL LEVEL and how it plays into my path.  

Bringin' it home now...

Later that same day (yes, this all happened in one day!), I was on the phone with my dear friend, who is wise beyond her years.  I mentioned my emotional response to the oracle card.  It was easy enough to understand my reaction, even though, as I often hear from clients, I thought I'd already dealt with the majority of mother issues.

Heal the Spirit, Heal the Body

I shared the research I'd done that morning and how I would add Colostrum to my daily regime.  Previously, she'd mentioned that she felt that there was something my body was not receiving; something that was key in healing my gut.  She reiterated.  I asked if she had any knowledge of the supplement I'd just discovered.

She began to relate her experience of the birth of her children and how she breast fed each baby.  She educated me on the pre-milk production of colostrum, which only lasts for a small period of time after childbirth.  This powerful fluid protects newborns as they come into our world of bacteria and viruses.  

In other words, it is a mother's innate way of LOVING and PROTECTING her baby.  

MOTHER LOVE...  OMG!  

Without consciously realizing it, I am seeking Mother Love to heal my body.  When this is absent in early childhood, it has a major impact.  I have mothered many throughout my life, starting with siblings.  I get it and a much deeper level than ever before.  I am JOYOUS!

Balancing my physical vessel began in 2003 and continues.  Developing my psychic gifts was a piece of cake compared to dealing with this 3-D body.  But, I know it's all part of the package!

The last time I dealt with big mother issues was immediately preceding  the gift of mediumship, some 15 years ago.  I sense that a higher level of healing abilities awaits me on the other side of this jaunt.  

Did I mention that I am JOYOUS?!

_____________________________________________________

Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!