WHEN A HEART BREAKS IT DON'T BREAK EVEN

When people break up, whether it is a romantic love relationship, a friendship or even a business partnership there is often pain.  

“I'm still alive but I'm barely breathing
Just prayed to a God that I don't believe in
'Cause I got time while she got freedom
'Cause when a heart breaks, no, it don't break even”

The Script, Breakeven

Why is it that in some cases the one who wishes to break away doesn’t even bother to say goodbye, much less offer an explanation for the departure?  What happens to the love and respect that once (appeared to) burned so brightly?  Today, the catchy term, "ghosting" is used.  It refers to ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out.

I’ve given this topic lots of thought over the last few years.  Running away is easiest, at least in the moment.  No confrontation, no excuses, no nothing.  A vanishing act, however un-messy for the runner, can create a great deal of confusion for the one left behind.  Wondering what went wrong or what could have been different, the “dumpee” may feel very confused, responsible and hurt.

Relationships grow and morph.  Sometimes the participants evolve together and sometimes they don’t.  The one who leaves unannounced is often the one who refuses to evolve through the connection.  They may be clinging to old familiar behavior patterns that produce the same results each time.  Unable to see the cause and effect principle at play, they blame and run.

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There is a better way!  Taking personal responsibility for our words and actions is a great start.  Asking ourselves this crucial question, “Why did I magnetize this person/situation into my life?” is a powerful way to move forward with LOVE and KINDNESS.  

People part; it happens.  What if, rather than running, we expressed our true feelings and THEN left with love still intact?  It may feel like a different love, more friendly than romantic, for example, but LOVE is LOVE.  It is the goodness that fills our hearts, the gratitude for the unique experience with this particular person, the gentleness and compassion that allows us to show empathy for others.  What if…

Pictured above:  Marina Abramovic and Ulay started an intense love story in the 70s, performing art out of the van they lived in. When they felt the relationship had run its course, they decided to walk the Great Wall of China, each from one end, meeting for one last big hug in the middle and never seeing each other again.

At her 2010 MoMa retrospective Marina performed ‘The Artist Is Present’ as part of the show, where she shared a minute of silence with each stranger who sat in front of her. Ulay arrived without her knowing and this is what happened.

http://zengarage.com.au/2013/03/marina-abramovic-and-ulay/

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LOVE IN A TIME OF SHIFTING CONSCIOUSNESS

"Be a light unto yourself; betake yourselves to no external refuge. Hold fast to the Truth. Look not for refuge to anyone besides yourselves."

- The Buddha

What's LOVE Got to Do With It?

Those closest to me know that I am an emotional “leaper”.  I’m certain that some of my leaps may not appear wise from the outside looking in, but I know that every jump brings me closer to honest self-understanding.  With no regrets about any of the jumps I’ve made, I suspect that I will not stop leaping as I have a robust yearning to intimately know my Self, warts and all.

 

We must not let our relationships be a distraction but rather a

springboard to justly seeing and cherishing our true Selves through the other.

Being in relationship is the most productive way to grow and evolve (albeit, being alone can be glorious:  we never disagree with ourselves, we do whatever we wish, wake up and go to sleep on our own schedule and eat whatever calls to us.  Often, however, we grow very slowly, if at all, during these periods of singleness.  We  gather information while in a relationship and process the information when alone.)   Ideally, commingling our life with another fosters love, beauty, trust, companionship and hopefully, the ability to compromise.  Or, does it always? 

Since my first awakening to my Higher Self, I have been an avid student of LOVE.  Prior to that, I was in monogamous and significant relationships, but mostly as a sleepwalker.  I reacted more than responded, as did my partner.

For many years, I have been waking up to my HEART.  The process is long and often very painful, although with each leap the pain lessens and morphs into a gentler sensation.  I had to come to terms with the ache implanted deeply within, much of which began in early childhood.  Tackling this information with gusto (naively at first; now with purposeful intention), I set about understanding this weary heart of mine.  I made a promise to myself that I would no longer exercise blame and judgment, but rather, simply attempt to look at myself and others for who we truly are. 

Being – and attracting a Spiritual Partner –is at the forefront of my emotional desire.  A spiritual partner challenges us to understand our deepest nature, thereby assisting us in our evolvement.  Ideally, we will do the same for our mate.  I believe that we are mostly all emotionally wounded beings, often with only a myopic view of existence.  We act and react from a place of pain and lack of trust.  We seek to protect ourselves above all else (animalistic), with so few of us really willing to take that all-mighty emotional leap of faith.  It is precisely because of that single-scope vision that a true spiritual partner is needed.  Otherwise, we are merely robotic beings going bump in the night.

In agreement with many of the travelers I’ve met along the way, the importance of communication is often mentioned early on during the initial period of getting to know one another.  Many of the self-proclaimed “communicators” were really only “talkers”.  Too many words lacking real depth; a great deal of projection with no true self-awareness.  Then again, maybe we’re all just talkers until we begin to awake and behold the wisdom of listening.

I say again, not for your benefit, but for mine:   I know that I will not stop leaping because I have a yearning to intimately know my Self.  I will continue to walk my talk, especially when it is the most difficult path to take. This is how I evolve and grow.

May your heart be whole and happy, beating with the purest energy of self-love.  

 

Happy Valentine’s Day

p.s.  A great little book on dating:  

 If the Buddha Dated by Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D.

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