THE GREAT SANDBOX OF KINDNESS

Greetings, dear friends!

I've been quiet for a while as I have been doing much shifting and healing.  During these times, although I continue to see clients, I find it very nurturing to lay low and simply "be" with my Self.  

Amazing revelations occur through the dream time and just as often, through inspirational reading.

Are you up for the CHALLENGE?

The one facet of my life that I have been continuously recreating through these shifts is my perception of the actions of those around me.  I am always in wonder of how a tiny shift in consciousness can COMPLETELY change the way I look at something - whether it be the behavior of another or world events.

This shift feels like it is going "upwards".  By that, I mean as my vibration raises through improved choices I feel an upward pull.  Is it a physical sensation?  Not sure, but I have always "felt" information, as well as "see" and "hear", etc.  I like the feeling.

The biggest change I see in myself is an ongoing ability to stay in a more neutral space with myself and others.  I now subscribe to "STAYING IN KINDNESS" as often as possible.

It wasn't always easy when I first began practicing this.  What was most evident was the fact that others who weren't prepared to stay in the "neutral zone" tried to bring me back into reaction, where it was most familiar.

It can be very tempting to fall back on old behavior, which I relied upon more years than not in the past. Verbally, I could keep duel with the very best of 'em. In fact, I thrived on it; it wasn't unusual to find ME leading the brigade for the cause of the day!  

Unfortunately, too many of my words flowed from a sharp tongue.  Yes, I could win a battle of wit, but I din't feel good afterward.  In fact, I never felt like I "won" anything. My willingness to do battle only pushed people away.  I could scrap, alright, but I was lonely.

Do you want to be RIGHT, or do you want to be HAPPY?

When staying in kindness, the objective shifts from needing to win to creating an amenable exchange. It feels good...period.  I step away from this type of peaceful communication feeling centered and calm.  

Throughout this last shift, I found that listening can be more powerful than speaking.  When I stay in KINDNESS, I hear more.  That gives me a more abundant tool box from which to properly respond (rather than react).  If the other person doesn't not like what I have to share, they may get upset with me.  That is simply their ego - their perception - at play.  I do my best to create space for their feelings/comments, but I no longer get sucked in.  

However, sometimes, the calmer and kinder I remain, the more frustrated the other person becomes. This is because their pain body (ego) is trying desperately to engage my ego for a "fuel-up".  I am stronger and a bit wiser these days; I don't play in sandboxes where argumentative people hang out. And, if I encounter this energy in my travels, I simply go to KINDNESS.

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Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

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WHEN A HEART BREAKS IT DON'T BREAK EVEN

When people break up, whether it is a romantic love relationship, a friendship or even a business partnership there is often pain.  

“I'm still alive but I'm barely breathing
Just prayed to a God that I don't believe in
'Cause I got time while she got freedom
'Cause when a heart breaks, no, it don't break even”

The Script, Breakeven

Why is it that in some cases the one who wishes to break away doesn’t even bother to say goodbye, much less offer an explanation for the departure?  What happens to the love and respect that once (appeared to) burned so brightly?  Today, the catchy term, "ghosting" is used.  It refers to ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out.

I’ve given this topic lots of thought over the last few years.  Running away is easiest, at least in the moment.  No confrontation, no excuses, no nothing.  A vanishing act, however un-messy for the runner, can create a great deal of confusion for the one left behind.  Wondering what went wrong or what could have been different, the “dumpee” may feel very confused, responsible and hurt.

Relationships grow and morph.  Sometimes the participants evolve together and sometimes they don’t.  The one who leaves unannounced is often the one who refuses to evolve through the connection.  They may be clinging to old familiar behavior patterns that produce the same results each time.  Unable to see the cause and effect principle at play, they blame and run.

CLICK HERE to WITNESS LOVE KEPT ALIVE BY KINDNESS

There is a better way!  Taking personal responsibility for our words and actions is a great start.  Asking ourselves this crucial question, “Why did I magnetize this person/situation into my life?” is a powerful way to move forward with LOVE and KINDNESS.  

People part; it happens.  What if, rather than running, we expressed our true feelings and THEN left with love still intact?  It may feel like a different love, more friendly than romantic, for example, but LOVE is LOVE.  It is the goodness that fills our hearts, the gratitude for the unique experience with this particular person, the gentleness and compassion that allows us to show empathy for others.  What if…

Pictured above:  Marina Abramovic and Ulay started an intense love story in the 70s, performing art out of the van they lived in. When they felt the relationship had run its course, they decided to walk the Great Wall of China, each from one end, meeting for one last big hug in the middle and never seeing each other again.

At her 2010 MoMa retrospective Marina performed ‘The Artist Is Present’ as part of the show, where she shared a minute of silence with each stranger who sat in front of her. Ulay arrived without her knowing and this is what happened.

http://zengarage.com.au/2013/03/marina-abramovic-and-ulay/

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Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Medium, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing in your business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!