LOVE IN A TIME OF SHIFTING CONSCIOUSNESS

"Be a light unto yourself; betake yourselves to no external refuge. Hold fast to the Truth. Look not for refuge to anyone besides yourselves."

- The Buddha

What's LOVE Got to Do With It?

Those closest to me know that I am an emotional “leaper”.  I’m certain that some of my leaps may not appear wise from the outside looking in, but I know that every jump brings me closer to honest self-understanding.  With no regrets about any of the jumps I’ve made, I suspect that I will not stop leaping as I have a robust yearning to intimately know my Self, warts and all.

 

We must not let our relationships be a distraction but rather a

springboard to justly seeing and cherishing our true Selves through the other.

Being in relationship is the most productive way to grow and evolve (albeit, being alone can be glorious:  we never disagree with ourselves, we do whatever we wish, wake up and go to sleep on our own schedule and eat whatever calls to us.  Often, however, we grow very slowly, if at all, during these periods of singleness.  We  gather information while in a relationship and process the information when alone.)   Ideally, commingling our life with another fosters love, beauty, trust, companionship and hopefully, the ability to compromise.  Or, does it always? 

Since my first awakening to my Higher Self, I have been an avid student of LOVE.  Prior to that, I was in monogamous and significant relationships, but mostly as a sleepwalker.  I reacted more than responded, as did my partner.

For many years, I have been waking up to my HEART.  The process is long and often very painful, although with each leap the pain lessens and morphs into a gentler sensation.  I had to come to terms with the ache implanted deeply within, much of which began in early childhood.  Tackling this information with gusto (naively at first; now with purposeful intention), I set about understanding this weary heart of mine.  I made a promise to myself that I would no longer exercise blame and judgment, but rather, simply attempt to look at myself and others for who we truly are. 

Being – and attracting a Spiritual Partner –is at the forefront of my emotional desire.  A spiritual partner challenges us to understand our deepest nature, thereby assisting us in our evolvement.  Ideally, we will do the same for our mate.  I believe that we are mostly all emotionally wounded beings, often with only a myopic view of existence.  We act and react from a place of pain and lack of trust.  We seek to protect ourselves above all else (animalistic), with so few of us really willing to take that all-mighty emotional leap of faith.  It is precisely because of that single-scope vision that a true spiritual partner is needed.  Otherwise, we are merely robotic beings going bump in the night.

In agreement with many of the travelers I’ve met along the way, the importance of communication is often mentioned early on during the initial period of getting to know one another.  Many of the self-proclaimed “communicators” were really only “talkers”.  Too many words lacking real depth; a great deal of projection with no true self-awareness.  Then again, maybe we’re all just talkers until we begin to awake and behold the wisdom of listening.

I say again, not for your benefit, but for mine:   I know that I will not stop leaping because I have a yearning to intimately know my Self.  I will continue to walk my talk, especially when it is the most difficult path to take. This is how I evolve and grow.

May your heart be whole and happy, beating with the purest energy of self-love.  

 

Happy Valentine’s Day

p.s.  A great little book on dating:  

 If the Buddha Dated by Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D.

Connie Stewart, Intuitive Profiler, Medium
Energetic Space Clearing (Corporate and Private)
Cutting Energetic Cords to the Past
619-573-5927 

Discernment vs. Judgment

Understanding the difference between discernment and judgment is on my mind at the moment.

A very memorable dialogue took place a few years back at a private women’s retreat I held.  Heated and passionate views were voiced about which practice is “good” and which is “bad”.  There was even obvious confusion about which word went with what action.

If we look at the Miriam Webster definition of each, it is easy to see the difference.  But, is it as easy to know the difference when using these practices in our own lives?

DISCERNMENT:

the quality of being able to grasp and comprehend what is obscure

Which Way Do I Go?

Discernment is vital in our daily interaction with the world.  As you can see from the above definition, it pertains to being able to understand what is in front of us and the likely ramifications of making a specific decision or going in a certain direction. It is our Divine Right to Discern! 

Note:  It’s not uncommon to run into the occasional accusation that you have imposed your judgment, rather than using your Divine Right to Discern, especially if the other person doesn’t agree with your observation. However, getting quiet, going within, and getting in touch with that subtle, inner sense helps us distinguish between “yes, this feels right for me,” or “no, this doesn’t feel like it is in my best interest” will always steer you right.

JUDGMENT:

an opinion so pronounced

Fair is Fair, RIGHT?!

A judgment is simply a view expressed in a way that makes it sound like the only “truth”.  It may not be the truth at all, in fact, it is only an assessment, and generally favors our own beliefs over the beliefs of others involved.

Judgment is often used to control or dominate situations and/or others.  It is not used to make sound decisions, but rather to keep someone or something “in its place”.

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Connie Stewart, Intuitive Profiler, Medium
Energetic Space Clearing (Corporate and Private)
Cutting Energetic Cords to the Past 
619-573-5927

MASKED FEELINGS

I get a great deal of information for clients psychically, but most of my own personal messages come to me in dreams.

My dreams have always been very vivid, sometimes epic sagas.  I try to record them as soon as I begin to wake up as recall is best at that moment.

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Last night my mother (who has been deceased for nine years) showed up in my dream.  It was her birthday.  She asked me how I was doing, and I replied as I always did, “I’m fine.”  She stepped away from me and speaking to my father (who has been deceased 35 years) and said, “this is the one child I’ve always worried about.  I can never tell how she really feels.  She says she’s fine but I’m not always sure that’s what’s really going on.”

As she walked away, I pondered.  Was she right?  Yes.

For her birthday, my gift to her was to express my true feelings.  This was a BIG deal!  I wrote to my mom, telling her that she was right; I didn’t let others know how I really felt.  I told her that my need to protect myself started very young, when I didn’t feel safe enough to divulge how I really felt.  My angry and abusive dad made it impossible to open up.  Her mental illness was like deaf ears.

I have consciously worked on being open and honest about my feelings and encourage others to do the same.  I have been more open than ever in personal relationships, especially within the last 10 years, with an emphasis on non-judgment while I remain honest about how I feel.  Even so, sometimes, when I am asked point-blank about how I feel, I have to really dig deep and search for those emotions.  And, sometimes, the feeling still evade my reach, at least at first.

This is real growth and I know it.  I have to remind myself often, however, that this is good – very good.  What happens is that the people we work the hardest to stay in balance with sometimes shy away when we actually find our emotional equilibrium.  That’s because, to them, the rules have changed and they don’t know how to relate to us any longer.  Unless…unless they, too have opted to challenge themselves to personal growth. That’s best case scenario, but, it doesn’t always work out that way.  Further growth happens when we accept that fact and let it be.

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Connie Stewart, Intuitive Profiler, Medium
Energetic Space Clearing (Corporate and Private)
Cutting Energetic Cords to the Past 
619-573-5927