OBLIGATION: LOVE or FEAR?

OBLIGATION:  LOVE or FEAR?

 

Happiness cannot thrive within the prison of obligation.
Live wild, life free, live as master of your own fate.

- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Do you remember the flurry of excitement at the holidays when you were just a child?  There is something special in the air at this time of year. 

 

Unless, of course, you find yourself getting stressed out for any number of reasons:  extra long hours at work, not enough money to cover your holiday expenses, illness, family get togethers ...

 

 OBLIGATION!

Although many are quick to defend “obligation” as a loved-based attitude and/or action, it is actually based on fear.

To demonstrate this claim, take a look at this list of common fears, which often lead to obligation.  How many do you identify with (from mild to strong)?

I am afraid of:

•    Losing my family member's approval
•    Getting my family member angry with me
•    Getting the “silent treatment”
•    My family member getting into danger or legal trouble
•    My family member self-harming or attempting suicide
•    My family member getting depressed
•    Being thought of as “selfish”
•    Taking responsibility
•    Being found out
•    Being a bad son/daughter/parent
•    Fear of abandonment
•    Fear of retaliation
•    People thinking that I’m a bad person
•    Loss of love/friendship/companionship
•    Losing contact with or custody of my children
•    Being alone or living by myself
•    Being called names or being embarrassed in public
•    Being threatened
•    Becoming depressed
•    Failing to live up to expectations
•    Confrontation
•    Getting angry
•    Losing control

 

“When our sense of obligation is stronger than our sense of self-respect and self-caring, blackmailers quickly learn how to take advantage”

- Forward and Frazier, 1997

SETTING BOUNDARIES:  A HEALTHY OPPORTUNITY

Frankly, the only obligation that feels right to me is the one to Self. Taking care of and loving our Self  is vital.  Setting emotional boundaries is of the utmost importance and eliminates being taken advantage of. 

The quickest way to establish boundaries is to be consistent.  Mean what you say!

 

Remember, in order to be used, we must allow it (albeit, at the subconscious level).  It may not feel like a choice, but I assure you, it is! 

Wishing you the happiest of holiday season, complete with LOVE!

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Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!

WHAT WILL YOU LEAVE BEHIND?

Our heirs inherit the legacy of our personality. 

Let that thought linger for just a moment. Our children, spirit-children and younger relatives all come into what we leave behind both emotionally and energetically. 

What will you leave behind?

What this means: 

We have firmly imprinted the younger generation with  wounds we carry form our own childhood.  Period. 

We may very well be unaware of the impact our cluttered past has on our children.  Many are simply trying to survive and may be stuck in a revolving door of fear, which often manifests as anger, relationship issues, substance abuse, depression, physical illness, career challenges and overall lack of well-being.

Cutting the cords to the past

Cutting energetic cords (releasing toxic people, places and events) to the past is a powerful game-changer!  During an intuitive healing session, my goal is to explore and discover, then sever these cords.  It is profound energy work at the *subtle energy level and can be life-altering.  Many report feeling lighter instantly!  When confronted with people and/or situations that formerly caused a great deal of stress and tension, we may notice no further "charge", thus freeing us from undesirable and unhealthy emotional reaction.

What legacy will you leave the generation following you?

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* Subtle energy is considered tenuous or rarefied energy.  To many, it is evasive, mysterious and hard to grasp or trace.  As a healer (a clairvoyant medium who has the ability to stimulate energy), I am able to "see" this energy, which allows me to release or cut away that which no longer serves the highest good.

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Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!

STAYING CONNECTED TO LOVE ENERGY

Sending LOVE energy to others, especially those we don’t like, we're more able to connect to the incredible rewards of LOVE energy in our own life.

Now, more than ever, with the multitude of challenges in our world, we will benefit from staying in our emotional LOVE center.  Remembering that we are LOVE and that our mind/ego thrives on fear will help us shift our perspective.

The vibrational frequency of the heart projects farther than that of the brain

It takes anywhere from three to seventy repetitions of engaging in a new habit to change an old one. Being fearful can become a habit; practice is the key and it takes discipline. We need to be patient as we go through this process.

The following are some practices that can be incorporated today:

Staying in LOVE center eliminates the need for asking for protection

• Meditation - even a few minutes of stillness everyday goes a long way

• Set an intention prior to every encounter for how you want to be

• Be conscious of your ego thoughts by checking in with how your body feels

• Use prayer to center yourself

• Stay fully present to the moment

• Create a mantra, eg. "I feel love"

This is where this practice really draws from Buddhist principles: being with what is.

This creates a space or gap. And from that gap, it is possible to notice the opportunity to make a shift or change the pattern to a state of being that is more centered, which would represent the possibility of more love, compassion and skillful action.

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Be an ALCHEMIST

AN INTUITIVE PROFILER, MEDIUM, SPEAKER AND WRITER, I AM AVAILABLE FOR PRIVATE SESSIONS (ONSITE AND REMOTE) BY APPOINTMENT ONLY. THROUGH INTUITIVE PROFILING, I IDENTIFY AND CUT UNHEALTHY ENERGETIC CORDS. RELEASING THESE NEGATIVE ENERGETIC CONNECTIONS ALLOWS US TO FUNCTION AT A HIGHER VIBRATIONAL FREQUENCY. I AM ALSO AVAILABLE FOR ENERGETIC SPACE CLEARING FOR BUSINESS, WHICH INCLUDES EMPLOYEE INTUITIVE PROFILING, AS WELL AS RESIDENTIAL CLEARING (ONSITE AND REMOTE).  CORPORATE KEYNOTE PRESENTATIONS AND GROUP SESSIONS ALSO AVAILABLE.

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SHIFT HAPPENS!

CUTTING CORDS TO TRAUMA: Live for Those Who Died

Imprinted Trauma

Bombs were not the only thing exploding in Boston on April 15, 2013.  Fear erupted  into the atmosphere, descending down upon the people of Boston. 

This horrific event has been imprinted upon not only the runners but all of the supporters, friends, family, responders and even those witnessing this tragedy on television and on the Internet. This type of profound energetic imprint does not simply go away. It becomes entrenched into our very being and can change the course of our life...if we let it.

The experience will become a part of our history but it doesn't have to dictate our present or future.

Grief is an Imprint

Just as I cut counter-productive energetic cords on a person-to-person level , it is possible to cut cords connecting us to a traumatic events. Of course, this will not remove the event from our memory but rather release us from the emotional charge we once felt in response to such an experience.

It IS a choice;  we do not have to fall victim to life's shadow events. They are here to teach us about ourselves. Cutting energetic cords to high stress situations creates the emotional space to process our experience in a positive and powerful manner.

Life goes on. Carrying limiting imprints (energetic cords) does not honor those we lost.  Live for those who died; that is the highest salute we can offer.

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Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

Shift Happens!

WANNA BE RIGHT OR HAPPY?

These days my confidence comes not from being right, but from not fearing to be wrong.  

Know Thyself

But it wasn't always this way.  Looking back, I  see that many of the debates and arguments in which I participated revolved around wanting to be right.  There was an urgency coming from deep within, a powerful push to come out on top. 

This wasn't about winning and certainly not about thinking that I was more intelligent than my “opponent”.  No, it was something much deeper; so deep in fact, I wasn't even aware it existed.  When it reared its ugly head, I had to instantly and robotically become one with it so as to be able to continue the charade.  I didn't know it was a sham, mind you, but it was just that.

That thing so deep within, well that was FEAR.  Growing up in a war zone mandated the appearance of assurance.  It wasn't safe to be seen as wrong or weak.  So, I bucked up, pushed out my lower lip and stood strong.  As strong as a little girl can stand, that is.  I was a great little actress but that didn't win me any awards.

The Most Important Relationship is with Yourself

Not fearing to be wrong was a result of a great deal of trial and error.  Eventually I found that falling, then getting up and falling again and getting up again indeed make me strong.  I learned that making a mistake is not equal to death.  Owning my missteps makes me more powerful and confident. 

Ultimately, it’s about loving me.  I didn't yell at my young son when he made a “boo-boo” because I understood he was learning something new.  Ah; I get it. I now feel the same way toward myself.  I’m always learning something new and hope to continue until I draw my very last breath. There will be many more ups and downs, but each journey into the valley and up to the peak is precious to me.

Peace accompanies not having to be right.  The more I let go of being right, the more RIGHT I become.  Go figure…!

LIAR, LIAR…PANTS ON FIRE!

Integrity is much more than being honest.   

Integrity deals with consistency;

It’s not only about telling the truth in front of people,

but whether we remain consistently truthful 

even when nobody is listening.

You’re probably familiar with the “little white lie (LWL)”.  Most of us have used this tactic at one time or another and largely because we didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings…or so we told ourselves.

 If we lose our honor, we lose our self

We ARE our word and a half-truth is still a whole lie.

Those in our circle won’t be upset that we lied to them, but that they can no longer believe us.  

OUCH!

 

When I finally made a commitment (to myself) that I would no longer take the easy way out by telling the LWL, I began to notice how many people still relied upon it.  It was everywhere; in fact, it was so prevalent that when I bucked up and told the truth, I got looked at as though I had three heads!   

OUCH!

The truth is nothing to fear.  We can chose to follow our inner compass and make a commitment to go beyond where we have ever been.  

The Five Levels of Truth-Telling: 

First, you tell the truth to yourself about yourself.

Then you tell the truth to yourself about another.

At the third level, you tell the truth about yourself to another.

Then you tell your truth about another to that other.

And finally, you tell the truth to everyone about everything.

~  Neale Donald Walsch Conversations with God (Book 2)

CUTTING ENERGETIC / EMOTIONAL CORDS

“The difference between school and life?

In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, 

you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.”

~Tom Bodett

Cutting the Energetic Cords

As an Intuitive Healer (Clairvoyant Medium), I facilitate healing energy work. I look deeply into the past to get a glimpse of the ‘energetic cords’ that bind individuals to very unhealthy and, oftentimes destructive, behavior patterns. I then cut those cords as a means of release from that unconscious repetitive behavior. 

Utilizing my clairvoyant ability, I “see” mom and dad (going back to early childhood) doing their thing and how profoundly it affected us, especially prior to the age of five and before the development of intellectual capacity. Toxicity was absorbed and assimilated into our very cellular being as we headed out into the world to repeat behavior that continually failed to help us achieve our hearts desires. We often made choices with harsh consequences attached. We attracted unhealthy people as playmates and partners, we dealt with illness and depression and we allowed emotional and financial impulsivity to lead. We all deal - and struggle with - our own version of the Law of Attraction. No one is exempt from this, least of all me.

We are all teachers, demonstrated by how well we do something – or how poorly. Oftentimes, an outstanding teacher comes into our life to stir things up. They create nothing short of chaos in our lives. Inadvertently, or seemingly so, they teach us to speak up, how to proceed with love even when angry, how to take responsibility for our actions and how to be quiet and observe. Some teachers pay a high price in order to deliver these messages. They may experience loneliness, be ostracized or experience severe personal setbacks. Doing their “Soul Job” well, they stir our ego and push us into action. Our Soul is eternally grateful to these teachers. 

I truly believe that we choose these teachers for exactly who they are and how they behave. Of course, we have no conscious idea that we are doing so, but our Soul knows. Our brilliant Higher Self knows that circumstances will play out in a particular way, so we call in these experiences to teach us something very vital to our growth process. 

Releasing Energetic Anchors

When dealing with such a teacher, we have a stellar opportunity to do a quiet self-inquiry into why we chose this experience. By doing this, we place ourselves in a very powerful position – a stance that promotes growth rather than victimization, blame or shame. These emotions are all normal under stressful circumstances, however, I vote for alchemizing them into a golden opportunity to evolve by grasping the valuable and timely lesson(s) presented. 

Can you identify an experience with a Chaotic Teacher? What did you learn? If the answer is, “no” or “nothing”, not to worry. You will have as many experiences as necessary to help you learn what your Soul deems important. Once the lesson is learned you will no longer need to a repeat performance and you will be free from the energetic/emotional anchor that once held you back.

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Deep healing work consists of being able to detect the Soul's whispers, sharing messages in a way that are easily understood and absorbed by clients.   

An Intuitive Profiler, Healer, Medium, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, Connie identifies and cuts unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I am also available for Energetic Space Clearing projects, both business and personal residence.

619-573-5927

www.soulsync.com

soulsync@cox.net