In my long-going quest for clarity,
I have become a student of human nature, most particularly men.
As a single woman, I finally turned
to on-line dating. Friends tried it long
before me and encouraged me to give it a go.
Maybe I would meet some nice guys, and perhaps even someone with whom I
would spend time.
As time goes by, I find myself
formulating a concept that I consider the epitome of the on-line dating
experience. If you’re still reading, get
ready, ‘cause it ain’t pretty.
My first impression is that
choosing someone to date online feels like looking through a catalog, where it’s
not only easy, but often free to fantasize about all the beautiful things I
want. I might dog-ear any page that
offers a potential treasure, yet I’m not actually making a commitment just
yet. I’ll keep looking, and looking, and
yes, looking.
When we peruse the internet for the
“ideal” mate, it’s really only a two-dimensional version of that person. It’s anything but organic. We see great photos (how old is THAT photo?)
and read grandiose prose about the life and times of a particular person. We mark them as a “favorite” and keep
looking. And, on it goes until we decide
to actual contact someone, or someone reaches out to us.
There are two basic types of men I
have encountered through on-line dating thus far. Let’s look at it using my Truth
Tests via the coffee date/first meeting. Here’s where it can get dicey.
Truth test #1: Does
this man represent himself accurately?
Does this person look like their
photo, have the same dimensions as represented, and is he approximately the same
age as professed? Very often, the
answer is simply NO. Red flag, wouldn't you say? I call this, I’m Desperate
and I Know It Man.
Floors me how people so blatantly
misrepresent themselves. I often wonder
if they think no one will notice…
Truth test #2: Has this man met himself?
There’s another kind of man, of
which I am seeing more of lately. He’s
the Unaware
Man. This man really believes his own glorified press release. He fancies himself tall, handsome, athletic
and spiritual. Oh, and he longs to be in
a long-term, committed relationship. Uh
huh.
Of course, none of this rings true
once I meet him, but I can tell he is committed to his story and is surprised
when I’m not interested. Sad, really.
The most resounding theme I've noticed is that most of the on-line crew of men seems to be carrying a sundry
of unresolved issues and wounds from past relationships. How do I know this (other than be exceedingly
psychic), you ask? Easy.
When a man brings up his ex over
and over again, he is NOT ready to enter a new relationship…period. He has
work to do. I have heard men say
that the quickest way to get over an ex is to get under someone new. Crass, but I suppose many feel this is more
exciting than doing inner work. But, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that the same old pattern reemerges. It always does. For some it’s like buying time, prolonging
the inevitable Come to Jesus Meeting with their own self.
By the way, I don’t believe for one
moment that my observations apply solely to men. This just happens to be my personal
experience. It’s time we all start
looking at ourselves truthfully.
There’s no shame in having a past. It’s unnecessary, however, to continue to
drag that baggage around and project it onto someone new.
Take a peek inside. There will be shadows, and there will be
gems. Upon which one will we choose to
focus?
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