"A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds. A
good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who
plants kindness gathers love."
- St. Basil
2012
was a year of receiving ‘proof’ I'd long-since yearned. For
several years I’d been quietly, and sometimes not-so-quietly, looking for the
goodness in men. This might sound trite,
but I assure you, it was very important to me.
You
see, I was raised in an alcoholic home by an abusive father and mentally ill
mother. It was never easy and rarely did I feel safe. My father’s ill temper
was always at its worst after a night of drinking. I did not get to see his ‘good’ side.
I
was in my 40’s before I made some peace with my dad. I wanted to look beyond his earthy self to
see the soul-goodness he possessed. I am grateful that I found that in him,
even if it was 25 years after his death.
Several
years later, I began to desire to see the goodness of men in relationships and
in everyday life. Because of my destructive
early imprinting (and the energetic cords that it created) I had a tendency to
attract men who, while not nearly as wounded as my dad, were still a long way
from what I dreamed of. I had to admit
to myself that these men represented a barometer reading of what was still
swirling around in my emotional body. I
began to realize that I might never find myself until I faced the truth about
my beliefs about men.
Fast
forward: the year is 2012. By then, I’d done an extreme amount of
personal emotional and energetic work upon my Self. I was still searching for evidence of the fruit
of my labor when I met three extraordinary men.
The
first young man is Dr.
Oscar Manuel Solorio, Jr., a dentist in
Tijuana, Mexico. Upon a personal referral
I visited Dr. Oscar Manuel to have a crown replaced. He shares an office with his mother and
father, both long-time dentists. The
energy in his office is lovely, laid-back and always welcoming.
Not
only did Dr. Oscar Manuel do an excellent job on my crown (plus other dental
care, as well) but he did it with kindness, respect and compassion. I received a hug each time I arrive, and also
when I left his office. This type of
warmness is often absent in the medical arena, so I especially appreciated the
gentleness in which I was treated. His
fee was reasonable and manageable and he never charged me for small extras.
The
second very special young man I had the privilege to meet is Ayham R. Skaf M.D., a Vitreoretinal Surgeon and Board Certified
Ophthalmologist. In mid-2012, I
developed a macular hole (hole in my retina) and received a specialist referral.
Dr. Skaf
was upbeat, very positive, and like Dr. Oscar Manuel, kind, compassionate and
gentle. Here, I was also greeted with a
warm hug, as well as another when I left the office. Dr. Skaf made a frightening, expensive
procedure doable and successful. His
high vibration and light fills the office in a way that was not apparent before
his arrival.
The third man
will remain nameless, as the nature of our relationship is personal and
private. However, I will share this with
you: this kind and gentle man is open,
curious and very creative. He is interested
in the world of spirit and is supportive of my life work, recognizing the
humanity in my efforts. He is generous
and caring and really likes my cats (a huge plus)!
Having
said all of this, the most amazing thing about this man is the way he invites
me to communicate my truest nature. This
is critical due to my life-long challenge of full expression. Raised southern, it was imprinted upon me
that a woman should be what the man wants her to be, even if that meant
sacrificing her authentic Self. I’ve
done a lot of that…too much of that!
Times are
changing; I am changing. Who I am is more
aware, more accountable and more honest than ever before. Likewise, so are the beautiful and good men
that I have been fortunate enough to magnetize into my life.
