WANNA BE RIGHT OR HAPPY?

These days my confidence comes not from being right, but from not fearing to be wrong.  

Know Thyself

But it wasn't always this way.  Looking back, I  see that many of the debates and arguments in which I participated revolved around wanting to be right.  There was an urgency coming from deep within, a powerful push to come out on top. 

This wasn't about winning and certainly not about thinking that I was more intelligent than my “opponent”.  No, it was something much deeper; so deep in fact, I wasn't even aware it existed.  When it reared its ugly head, I had to instantly and robotically become one with it so as to be able to continue the charade.  I didn't know it was a sham, mind you, but it was just that.

That thing so deep within, well that was FEAR.  Growing up in a war zone mandated the appearance of assurance.  It wasn't safe to be seen as wrong or weak.  So, I bucked up, pushed out my lower lip and stood strong.  As strong as a little girl can stand, that is.  I was a great little actress but that didn't win me any awards.

The Most Important Relationship is with Yourself

Not fearing to be wrong was a result of a great deal of trial and error.  Eventually I found that falling, then getting up and falling again and getting up again indeed make me strong.  I learned that making a mistake is not equal to death.  Owning my missteps makes me more powerful and confident. 

Ultimately, it’s about loving me.  I didn't yell at my young son when he made a “boo-boo” because I understood he was learning something new.  Ah; I get it. I now feel the same way toward myself.  I’m always learning something new and hope to continue until I draw my very last breath. There will be many more ups and downs, but each journey into the valley and up to the peak is precious to me.

Peace accompanies not having to be right.  The more I let go of being right, the more RIGHT I become.  Go figure…!

DIVINE DISCONTENT

Divine Discontent can be quite useful.  It can be the rocket fuel needed to get you moving again and it can stimulate your creative juices.

What Moves You?

When this energy is channeled in a positive direction, it becomes a natural step in a direction that supports your Soul’s calling.  It can help you weed out those things in life that distract you from your heart’s desires.

When not acknowledged as such, however, an imbalance can occur.  Symptoms are: lack of motivation, fatigue, trying new things (jobs, locations) and nothing holding your attention, low-grade depression, frustration, irritability, nothing has meaning, soul weariness, a feeling of having a half empty heart, cynical attitude, heaviness and pressure set in, physical discomforts, feeling discouraged, overwhelmed and rarely having fun. It is natural to have these symptoms come and go during the course of your life but as the exception and not the rule.

If you feel that these symptoms hang on, it may be time to look at root causes.  These causes more often than not, began in your earliest childhood and show up as energetic cords connecting you to old negative imprints.

These cords can be cut once you realize and accept the fact that you are stuck.  Remember, being stuck is merely a symptom of those energetic cords/early imprints.  Once the cords are cut, it is as if the very anchors that once held you back are instantly gone…and you are FREE to move in the direction of your truest desire.

If you have unsuccessfully tried to free yourself from emotional malaise, it may be helpful to know that even though you've come to intellectually understand the nature of your discontent, you are likely still tethered to family-of-origin beliefs that do not serve you (aka, energetic cords).

Help is available!  The very essence of my work, cutting energetic cords, is a healing process very near and dear to my heart.  We are ALL stuck at one time or another.  Now that you have this information, being stuck moves from unconscious to conscious…you now have a choice! 

SHAMANISM AND SCHIZOPHRENIA

Obituaries

SCHRODER, FLORENCE KRAEMER

Thursday September 18, 2003

Florence Kraemer Schroder

Florence Kraemer Schroder, a homemaker, died Tuesday of heart failure at Pontchartrain Health Care Center. She was 73. Mrs. Schroder was born in Marrero and lived in Mandeville for the past three years. Survivors include three sons, Richard Aysien and David and Freddie Schroder; two daughters, Susan Schroder Newton and Connie Schroder Stewart.

Today, my mamma would have been 83 years old had she stayed on the planet. Flo died without ever knowing the beauty of her incredible gift.  Of Shaman descent, the veils that were to rise and fall did not do so for her.  She was unable to regulate her "vision" the way I can, therefore, she constantly saw "things" most do not - or would not ever chose to - see.  This haunted her during most of the years of her life.

Schizophrenia is often called the "Shaman's disease".   What we call schizophrenic is, as Joseph Campbell has discussed, called (positively) visionary or mystical in shamanic cultures, hence is valued, not feared or sedated with chemicals. As he clarifies 'The shaman is the person, male or female, who ... has an overwhelming psychological experience that turns him totally inward. It's a kind of schizophrenic crack-up. The whole unconscious opens up, and the shaman falls into it.

I am grateful that Mama held open the door for me so that I could come into the world and into my own shamanistic healing abilities.  She endured tremendous suffering.  Shamanic initiation is often unpleasant, even at times horrific, and can involve being mythically stripped to the skeleton, dismemberment, or being taken to pieces. Fortunately, I found healing and ego stability at the other end of my ordeal; Mama did not.

Happy birthday, Mama.  What you fought for on Earth is now at your fingertips.  I love you.

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Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

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CONNIE STEWART: In Sync With the Stars

www.soulsync.com

The San Diego Uptown News recently published an article, “In Sync With the Stars”, about my extra-ordinary paranormal psychic (healing) abilities and how my abusive and traumatic childhood (in the deep South) actually played a pivotal role in my spiritual and professional life today. 

Come into my eyes,
and look at me through them,
for I have chosen a home
far beyond what eyes can see. 

~ Rumi

You can pick up a copy around town or simply click on this link http://sduptownnews.com/in-sync-with-the-stars/  to read this beautifully written article by Celene Adams.

I invite and encourage your comments both on the SD Uptown News website and directly to me.

Celene is the author of the series, A Whim and a Prayer, which profiles the trials and triumphs of entrepreneurs whose businesses have evolved out of their passions and life experience. You can read the expanded version of this article on her website.

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Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Psychic-Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

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HOW DOES YOUR GARDEN GROW?

"This outward spring and garden are a reflection of the inward garden."
- Rumi

What’s growing in your internal garden?  Whatever it may be, you can rest assured that what you are attracting into your life (people, situations, etc.) is a DIRECT REFLECTION.

What's in Your Garden?

Like attracts like…right?  So, if you don’t like what your life is all about, then it may be time to plant a new garden.  It’s that simple, and that complex.

Most of us simply project out shadow side (the stuff we abhor about ourselves) onto the nearest unwitting person.  “You aren't compassionate enough; you are trying to move this relationship along too quickly; you never listen”.  Get it?    

It’s not pretty, folks.  In fact it’s a train wreck!  Making someone else responsible for your unresolved issues never gets you where you truly want to be.  That train always pulls into a desolate station in the middle of a cold and dreary night. 

Lest we not forget, however, we are the gardeners.  We have the final say so and if we don’t like what we see…we can change it!  Take an honest inventory of your earliest upbringing – that’s where the weeds took root.  We must learn to ask for help if need be.  Let’s remove the weeds, till and fertilize the soil and get busy planting the type of seeds that will reap the bountiful harvest we all deserve. 

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Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

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PAIN: Badge of Honor or Family Crest?

What's Your Badge?

Ever meet someone who constantly complains?  It’s either the ex that screwed them over (now you’re just somebody that I used to know), the boss that overlooked them for a promotion or the husband/wife who simply does not understand them.  Oh, and how about that darn nagging backache/headache, etc. that just gets In the way of all the things you want/need to accomplish?  Are YOU that person?  

If so, it might be helpful to ask yourself this:  Are you hanging onto old emotional/physical pain as a Badge of Honor?  In other words, are you over-identified with the pain?  If you aren’t sure who you’d be without the pain, then the answer is YES.  

It might also be a matter of carrying on the Family Crest so as to be recognized or acknowledged because of pain.  The mother who constantly has a “nervous attack” rendering her helpless for the day garners sympathy and attention, the father who never seems to get relief (as does his family due to his constant complaining) from the pain in his lower back becomes glorified for his heroic actions out in the field.

What Does Your Crest Say About You?

It is true (at least in my book) that suffering IS optional.  If I am in physical pain, I look at where it is in my body then associate it to the chakra located nearest that site.  I know that there is stagnant energy there, creating a buildup much like a damn holds back water.  Clearing that chakra helps the energy flow, thus helping to release the physical pain. 

Emotional pain IS a teacher.  When I am overtaken by any emotion, I tend to go back to the past to see where it emanates.   I can promise you that it is rooted in an old belief that no longer serves your forward movement. Clearing that belief frees us from the repetitive loop of negative and fearful thoughts.  

If you are tired, really tired of lugging around the weight of the PAST, learn more about what you can do to help yourself.  Health - emotional, physical, spiritual and mental – is an inside job.

Is it time to discard that old dusty badge and retire that heavy crest?  

If you need assistance – ASK!  

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Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Medium, Mentor, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing for business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

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WHEN A HEART BREAKS IT DON'T BREAK EVEN

When people break up, whether it is a romantic love relationship, a friendship or even a business partnership there is often pain.  

“I'm still alive but I'm barely breathing
Just prayed to a God that I don't believe in
'Cause I got time while she got freedom
'Cause when a heart breaks, no, it don't break even”

The Script, Breakeven

Why is it that in some cases the one who wishes to break away doesn’t even bother to say goodbye, much less offer an explanation for the departure?  What happens to the love and respect that once (appeared to) burned so brightly?  Today, the catchy term, "ghosting" is used.  It refers to ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out.

I’ve given this topic lots of thought over the last few years.  Running away is easiest, at least in the moment.  No confrontation, no excuses, no nothing.  A vanishing act, however un-messy for the runner, can create a great deal of confusion for the one left behind.  Wondering what went wrong or what could have been different, the “dumpee” may feel very confused, responsible and hurt.

Relationships grow and morph.  Sometimes the participants evolve together and sometimes they don’t.  The one who leaves unannounced is often the one who refuses to evolve through the connection.  They may be clinging to old familiar behavior patterns that produce the same results each time.  Unable to see the cause and effect principle at play, they blame and run.

CLICK HERE to WITNESS LOVE KEPT ALIVE BY KINDNESS

There is a better way!  Taking personal responsibility for our words and actions is a great start.  Asking ourselves this crucial question, “Why did I magnetize this person/situation into my life?” is a powerful way to move forward with LOVE and KINDNESS.  

People part; it happens.  What if, rather than running, we expressed our true feelings and THEN left with love still intact?  It may feel like a different love, more friendly than romantic, for example, but LOVE is LOVE.  It is the goodness that fills our hearts, the gratitude for the unique experience with this particular person, the gentleness and compassion that allows us to show empathy for others.  What if…

Pictured above:  Marina Abramovic and Ulay started an intense love story in the 70s, performing art out of the van they lived in. When they felt the relationship had run its course, they decided to walk the Great Wall of China, each from one end, meeting for one last big hug in the middle and never seeing each other again.

At her 2010 MoMa retrospective Marina performed ‘The Artist Is Present’ as part of the show, where she shared a minute of silence with each stranger who sat in front of her. Ulay arrived without her knowing and this is what happened.

http://zengarage.com.au/2013/03/marina-abramovic-and-ulay/

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Healer, Intuitive Profiler, Medium, Speaker and Writer, I am available for private sessions by appointment only. Through Intuitive Profiling, I identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords. Releasing these negative energetic connections allows you to function at a higher vibrational frequency.

I also perform Energetic Space Clearing in your business (staff profiles included) or home.

619-573-5927 ~ soulsync@cox.net

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